Safety and discretion
Old F-Buddy Safety: Meet Discreetly, Stay in Control
The checks that run in the background, the controls in your hands and the habits that make a first meet easy.
You decide who sees what
These controls come with every membership, from Classic to VIP Plus.
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A username, not your name
Members know you by the username you choose. Your real name and email address are never shown.
For you: nobody can look you up on social media from your profile.
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Your nearest town, not your address
Your profile shows the nearest town or city, never your address or where you are right now.
For you: people can see you're close without knowing where you live.
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Blurred until you choose
Photos that might be explicit are blurred with a warning before anyone views them.
For you: nothing lands on your screen that you didn't ask to see.
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Block and report in a tap
Block a member and they can no longer contact you or see you. Report a member or a photo straight from the site.
For you: a conversation ends the moment you want it to, no reason needed.
Know who's real before you reply
Free ID verification is open to every member, and passing it puts a verified badge on the profile. A live video check with a moderator confirms identity for anyone who would rather not use a document, and our team can validate a profile by hand. Age is estimated automatically, with further checks where the law requires them, to keep under-18s out.
Every member carries a rating built from how they behave and what other members say about them, and you can give a quick thumbs up or down after an exchange. If someone tries to move the chat to WhatsApp or another app, you get a warning, because rushing you off the site is a classic scammer's move.
Watching out so you don't have to
- Screened on upload. Every image, video and piece of text is checked as it arrives, by software and by people.
- Unusual behaviour spotted early. Automated monitoring looks for the patterns scammers, bots and troublemakers leave behind.
- Fast takedowns. Ask for unauthorised or harmful content to be removed and it is dealt with quickly.
- Support around the clock. A real support team answers by chat, phone and messaging, 24 hours a day.
- Secure behind the scenes. The site runs on PCI-compliant infrastructure with full SSL encryption, and follows the best practice of the Online Dating and Discovery Association.
Before you meet: habits worth keeping
A first meet should be a drink and a laugh. These habits keep it that way.
Chat on the site first
Keep the conversation here until you trust them. The warnings and the report button only work where we can see the chat.
Have a quick video call
Two minutes on camera tells you more than a week of messages, and anyone genuine will understand.
Meet somewhere public first
A pub or hotel bar is perfect. If the chemistry is there, you can choose where to go next.
Tell a friend where you'll be
You don't have to say why. A text with a place and a time is enough.
Get yourself there and back
Your own car or a taxi you booked keeps you in charge of when the evening ends.
Never send money
Whatever the story, a person who asks for money before you've met is not looking for a fuck buddy. Report them.
Look after your sexual health
Sexually transmitted infections don't check your age. Use condoms with a new partner, agree between you what's safe, and get tested when you start seeing someone new. NHS sexual health clinics test and treat in confidence, free of charge, and anyone can go, at any age, with or without symptoms. Our guide to sex after 50 covers what changes with age and what helps, and the fuck buddy rules include the conversation about protection that every good arrangement starts with.
Safety questions, answered
Is Old F-Buddy safe to use?
Yes. Content is screened as it is uploaded, behaviour is monitored for scams, ID and video checks are open to every member, and you can block or report anyone in a tap. Your own habits matter too: meet in public first and never send money.
Can other members see my real name or address?
No. They see your username and your nearest town or city. Your name, email address and exact location stay private.
What should I do if someone asks me for money?
Don't send it, however convincing the story, and report the member from the site so our moderators can act. The same goes for anyone pushing you to chat on another app straight away.
How do I stay discreet if I'm attached?
Use a username that gives nothing away, choose photos with care and keep the chat on the site. Our page on keeping a discreet fuck buddy covers the rest.
Have your fun, keep your privacy
Pick a username, set your town and start talking on your terms.
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